Quick answer
Focus on immediate child safety and observable facts.
Do now
Avoid a physical confrontation. If impaired driving or immediate danger is present, seek emergency help. Record what you directly observed, the time, witnesses, and relevant communications. Ask promptly about emergency relief or safer exchange terms.
Watch for
Do not rely on unsupported diagnoses or use a single disagreement as proof of addiction. Any departure from an order should be assessed promptly with legal help and documented accurately.
Official sources
NJ Courts — Representing Yourself, NY Courts — Custody and Visitation, DC Courts — Family Court Self-Help Center, National Domestic Violence Hotline — Plan for Safety.
