Quick answer
Do not guess which order controls. Obtain prompt clarification from the appropriate court or lawyer.
Do now
Gather complete signed copies of both orders and later amendments. Identify the exact conflict, issuing courts, and next exchange date. Ask about a lawful temporary arrangement and modification if necessary.
Watch for
A parent’s invitation to communicate does not necessarily excuse violating a no-contact order. Court-approved third-party arrangements may be needed; do not create an informal exception on your own.
Official sources
NJ Courts — Domestic Violence, NY Courts — Domestic Violence / Family Offense, DC Courts — Domestic Violence Division.