Quick answer
Start with the child’s routines and practical needs, then obtain the appropriate legal arrangement.
Do now
List school, childcare, medical needs, work schedules, travel time, holidays, and exchange locations. Identify unresolved legal parentage. Propose specific times and transportation duties rather than “reasonable visits” alone.
Watch for
An informal schedule may not be enforceable like an order. Safety concerns, existing cases, and interstate issues need review before a standard schedule is used.
Official sources
NJ Courts — Initial FD application packet, NY Courts — Starting a Case in Family Court, DC Courts — Family Court Self-Help Center, NY Courts — Custody and Visitation.
