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My child says they do not want to visit

General information for New Jersey, New York and Washington, DC · Last updated

Quick answer

Take the concern seriously without making the child responsible for deciding the legal dispute.

Do now

Listen calmly, note the child’s words without coaching, and consider whether there is a safety issue, transition difficulty, or another concern. Seek appropriate professional and legal guidance. Review the order and available modification process.

Watch for

There is no universal age at which a child can simply cancel an order. Do not repeatedly interrogate the child or promise a court outcome. Immediate abuse concerns need urgent assessment.

Official sources

NJ Courts — FD modification application packet, NY Courts — Custody and Visitation, DC Courts — Family Court Self-Help Center.

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