Quick answer
Take the concern seriously without making the child responsible for deciding the legal dispute.
Do now
Listen calmly, note the child’s words without coaching, and consider whether there is a safety issue, transition difficulty, or another concern. Seek appropriate professional and legal guidance. Review the order and available modification process.
Watch for
There is no universal age at which a child can simply cancel an order. Do not repeatedly interrogate the child or promise a court outcome. Immediate abuse concerns need urgent assessment.
Official sources
NJ Courts — FD modification application packet, NY Courts — Custody and Visitation, DC Courts — Family Court Self-Help Center.
